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Post by auntym on May 23, 2014 12:59:58 GMT -6
ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0523 THERAPEUTIC IDEAS FOR COPING WITH ALIEN ABDUCTIONSBy AJ - May 23, 2014 Abduction Notes Biography of John S. Carpenter, MSW, LCSW Therapeutic Ideas For Coping By John S. Carpenter, MSW, LCSW As a hypnotherapist working with many fine people who find themselves recalling abduction experiences, it would seem helpful to share several of the techniques that are helping these people to cope better. Although not frequently stated, it should also be noted that a number of people are aware of abduction experiences who feel neither a strong need to pursue further information nor any sense of trauma which would require therapeutic relief. These people have privately found ways to cope on their own and have been able to work through any sense of victimization. Everybody copes a little differently; not everyone needs to uncover details to feel okay and move forward. Many of these folks do not get referred for help; we hear from those who are sleepless, confused, hurting, and needing relief. It is important to remind readers of this so that it will not be assumed that all participants in this phenomenon require the following suggestions. We must respect each person's abilities for coping and assist each one in finding a comfortable pace in which to deal with these bizarre matters. As researchers we much remember that any eagerness for data is secondary to the necessary adjustment and healing in each human life. If a participant in this phenomenon decides to only have a session once every six months, then their request is upheld with great respect. Any need for more data from the researcher's perspective simply must wait. For some researchers the notion that the "lab rats" can call the shots will indeed be frustrating. Let us remember that our fellow humans are asking for help. Their emotional needs shall effect our course of action until their satisfaction is met. In the excitement over the fascinating data, this can be easily forgotten. The process of coping can be a long journey with many highs and lows emotionally. The initial clinical picture is descriptive of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: insomnia, anxiety, phobic or paranoid responses to seemingly harmless environmental cues, hypervigilance, irritability, nightmares and flashbacks. Many feel that they must be going crazy and are fearful of letting anyone know - let alone have a professional validate their supposed insanity. Others say they would actually prefer a psychiatric diagnosis because then there could be a prescribed treatment and a great likelihood for relief. Assuming for the moment that there are no psychiatric causes for these feelings, these individuals simply need a sensitive, caring, open-minded person with whom to share their "crazy thoughts" which have a persistent, nagging quality to them. Unloading these peculiar feelings in an atmosphere of acceptance is essential. Just listen! It is best not to have a theory or any speculative "explanation" ready; they must decide for themselves what they believe. Feeding them information from outside of their experiences may color, distort, or confuse their efforts to process, understand, and cope effectively. CONTINUE READING: ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0523
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Post by Steve on May 23, 2014 14:07:17 GMT -6
ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0523 THERAPEUTIC IDEAS FOR COPING WITH ALIEN ABDUCTIONSBy AJ - May 23, 2014 Abduction Notes Biography of John S. Carpenter, MSW, LCSW Therapeutic Ideas For Coping By John S. Carpenter, MSW, LCSW As a hypnotherapist working with many fine people who find themselves recalling abduction experiences, it would seem helpful to share several of the techniques that are helping these people to cope better. Although not frequently stated, it should also be noted that a number of people are aware of abduction experiences who feel neither a strong need to pursue further information nor any sense of trauma which would require therapeutic relief. These people have privately found ways to cope on their own and have been able to work through any sense of victimization. Everybody copes a little differently; not everyone needs to uncover details to feel okay and move forward. Many of these folks do not get referred for help; we hear from those who are sleepless, confused, hurting, and needing relief. It is important to remind readers of this so that it will not be assumed that all participants in this phenomenon require the following suggestions. We must respect each person's abilities for coping and assist each one in finding a comfortable pace in which to deal with these bizarre matters. As researchers we much remember that any eagerness for data is secondary to the necessary adjustment and healing in each human life. If a participant in this phenomenon decides to only have a session once every six months, then their request is upheld with great respect. Any need for more data from the researcher's perspective simply must wait. For some researchers the notion that the "lab rats" can call the shots will indeed be frustrating. Let us remember that our fellow humans are asking for help. Their emotional needs shall effect our course of action until their satisfaction is met. In the excitement over the fascinating data, this can be easily forgotten. The process of coping can be a long journey with many highs and lows emotionally. The initial clinical picture is descriptive of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: insomnia, anxiety, phobic or paranoid responses to seemingly harmless environmental cues, hypervigilance, irritability, nightmares and flashbacks. Many feel that they must be going crazy and are fearful of letting anyone know - let alone have a professional validate their supposed insanity. Others say they would actually prefer a psychiatric diagnosis because then there could be a prescribed treatment and a great likelihood for relief. Assuming for the moment that there are no psychiatric causes for these feelings, these individuals simply need a sensitive, caring, open-minded person with whom to share their "crazy thoughts" which have a persistent, nagging quality to them. Unloading these peculiar feelings in an atmosphere of acceptance is essential. Just listen! It is best not to have a theory or any speculative "explanation" ready; they must decide for themselves what they believe. Feeding them information from outside of their experiences may color, distort, or confuse their efforts to process, understand, and cope effectively. CONTINUE READING: ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0523 Having done some Alien abduction cases, working with a Medical physician ans and certified hypnotherapist, I completely agree with this article by John S. Carpenter, MSW, LCSW. Mufon investigators I hope will read this. They very much need to, and anyone else too if they are ever intending to learn how to investigate CE-4 cases. Particularly "researchers we much remember that any eagerness for data is secondary to the necessary adjustment and healing in each human life".
I have spoken about this in earlier posts. Many Mufon investigators have not followed this, and have read and been told by many people they feel used, and exploited to gather so called information. Their experience is then put out in the public all for a good story to promote revenue for mufon or to self promote the investigator. They treat CE-4 cases like another UFO sighting. The dynamics of the experience are often radically different. They leave the experiencer feeling violated and still with no referrals to good treatment if they wish it.
Steven
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Post by paulette on May 24, 2014 0:10:08 GMT -6
I got interrupted in my counselling process by my husband's recent troubles. I was debriefing a lot of stuff from my childhood and mixed in with the other stuff is possible UFO fractured memories - when I was little. I'm going to tell the story of my life (speeded up of course) to a counsellor who seems to hold his grounding and calm well. I had just gotten started....later then.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2014 8:35:11 GMT -6
Yeah, I thought of this, Paulette. For the people who say "timing is everything", those same people need to realize that some assertiveness is masking real aggression. LOL. Let's try " There is a Time for Everything". __________________________________________________________________________________________ John Carpenter said: "The hypnotherapist needs to assert some professional caution to those who view hypnosis as a "magic doorway to all answers" and are overly eager to explore any and all peculiar dreams or potentially unrelated but similar incidents in their lives" and goes on to explain why he says this. Professional caution is the key words here. I myself am regularly "mystified" by my ongoing responses to the a. experience. In general, some days I am "overly eager" in the ways Mr. Carpenter just explained, because I want answers. The "overly eager" never lasts long. A great therapist should be able to handle these "moments" (without leading their patient/client) as part of the therapeutic process. All of this takes "getting to know" your patient/client, which is what all therapists (arm-chair and licensed) should be geared to do. Especially with not knowing how long the patient/client will return to therapy. So, a "patient" needs to have healthy caution about seeing a "therapist" that views hypnosis as that "magic doorway". Healthy caution? As you know, one of the many things possibly "stripped away" by a C-4 experience. If hypnosis is destined to become more 'mainstream', I hope Mr. Carpenter is the template (and Mary Barr).
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Post by Steve on May 24, 2014 9:27:23 GMT -6
I got interrupted in my counselling process by my husband's recent troubles. I was debriefing a lot of stuff from my childhood and mixed in with the other stuff is possible UFO fractured memories - when I was little. I'm going to tell the story of my life (speeded up of course) to a counsellor who seems to hold his grounding and calm well. I had just gotten started....later then. I am concerned and saddened by your husbands recent difficulties. When when we marry our partner, their difficulties naturally are your difficulties. I think gauging from your post, you are expressing a spoken or unspoken need to clear our personal closets, as we all often need to do from time to time in a lifetime. I am happy you found a counselor that you feel comfortable with to do this. Maybe addressing some fractured memories from your childhood is a bit mentally and emotionally like your emotional ship clearing her decks for action, better to come to terms with these personal questions and put behind you now as you face the future being their for your husband. Just my personal thoughts reflecting. Steve
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Post by paulette on May 24, 2014 12:24:22 GMT -6
Thanks Steve. I have to say that finding a personal and professional person to work with was just the last step in what began years ago on the various boards many of us here were on. Reading stories from others who had never really been believed (or even believed themselves), and telling my own was very significant and re-integrating for me. It is indeed a way to clear the decks. Even at the hospital, there were moments when I knew I had a choice and could act self-centeredly or extend the circle of caring to his family (adult daughters) and his ex wife. I took the opportunity to do so and I think Terry's illness provided an opportunity for healing between them, him, and me. They did not "take care" of me and although I noticed this, I did not put energy into being angry at what they could or would not do. It just was the way it was and I made healthy choices - walking back and forth to the hospital, not eating high-sugar gluten food (and guarenteeing being ill myself). Stopping to smell the incredible flowers that were blooming everywhere - lilacs, rugosa roses (they smell like I think Persia smelled), and such.
One day I was in the waiting room - and I had gotten to know the other families that came and went there by the overheard conversations - some more despairing, some more hopeful. There was a First Nations woman with her grandchildren visiting her son. She had raised them since they were infants and her son and their mother unable or unwilling to be much of a part of their lives. But then he had a chance of heart (on the edge of death) and told her he wanted to live and he wanted to live a different life. So she packed them up (they lived on the coast) and stayed day after day in Victoria, all of them pulling for him.
As we talked, I mentioned that her grandson reminded me of my son at his age - but even more like the boy his age who lived with us for 2 years whose father had custody but worked in the bush and whose Mom was not living a stable life. (They were our neighbors) I said his name - Noah - and his mother's name. I said that Noah later grew up to be a handsome man with a family and that his Mom was now running a store and campground and doing well. She gave me a long look and then said - she is my cousin.
So there I was, seemingly in the company of strangers and it turned out that I had "family" in common. How small is the universe? Sometimes very small.
What I'm trying to indicate is, opportunities for learning usually DO NOT show up as I imagine that they will. All my life this has been true and I'm starting to get it now. I mean really get it.
I would love to have signed copies of your books. Tell me how to do that.
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Post by Steve on May 24, 2014 12:53:00 GMT -6
I would love to have signed copies of your books. Tell me how to do that. Will send you a private message here who maybe we can facilitate this. Steve
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Post by auntym on May 24, 2014 15:41:19 GMT -6
ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0524May 24, 2014 THERAPEUTIC IDEAS FOR COPING WITH ALIEN ABDUCTIONS - PART IIBy AJ If you missed Part I of this article click here: www.ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0523The hypnotic sessions which tend to produce the most successful and beneficial results are those which focus either on emotionally charged memory fragments or anxiety producing blocks of memory for specific periods of time. The emotions are bubbling up to the surface in these situations and are usually easier and more beneficial to retrieve along with the specific content connected with the feelings. Participants in this bizarre UFO abduction scenario are most bothered by: (1) a sense of unexpected, uninvited, unwanted intrusion, (2) anxiety from being out of control, (3) feeling helpless and powerless, (4) bewilderment and frustration over the usual lack of explanation provided for the events, and (5) anger over the inability to stop further intrusions. During hypnotherapy there are opportunities for the use of cathartic and abreactive techniques which can safely release a great deal of the emotional tension much in the same manner pressure is released from a pressure cooker. The state of hypnosis can be a powerful tool in enhancing this process. For example, there are points at which the abductee is overwhelmed with feelings of anger or fear. At these moments the hypnotherapist can "freeze the actions," stop the progression of events artificially, and directly request the abductee to envision some sort of immobilization of the beings - perhaps trapped behind glass, a "force field," or under some type of paralysis where the abductee can at least believe temporarily that the roles have reversed. Now the abductee can safely vent his feelings of anger and confusion onto the magically-restrained aliens, stating feelings, shouting, or cursing the intruders if he so chooses. although both the hypnotherapist and client know that this is a created, artificial scene, it nevertheless is highly effective in releasing pent-up feelings by utilizing the power of suggestion and the vivid quality of the hypnotic state of mind. Similarly, if we were to dream of beating up an old nemesis, we will likely awaken feeling refreshed, smugly content, and energized - as if we had actually gained revenge against an old foe - despite our conscious knowledge that nothing of the sort has actually happened. If direct visual confrontation is too difficult for the client, one can use powerful metaphoric imagery to create symbolic scenarios and significant emotional release. For example, one could be told that all of the strange beings are contained inside of a large leather bag and cannot escape. One can then take a large club and beat the squishy bag until it is as flat as a pancake or pulverized into small particles that one could simply blow away with a breath of air or suck up into a vacuum cleaner easily. The subject's mind will know what feels right and is satisfied via fantasy. Usually one can reassure and remind the abductee that no deliberate hostility or harm has been imparted, and that he/she is a survivor with many strengths. Most confusion or fear does diminish with the acquisition of more information which slowly transforms the unknown into the known which we can begin to sort and process. After hypnotherapy another technique is to actually write a letter to the beings. This provides another safe outlet for expression of suppressed feelings without public display or disclosure. The tone could range from an angry blast to one of sincere inquiry listing many of those nagging questions such as, "Why me?, "Are you returning again?," and "What do you need me for?" Although the abductee does not receive answers (usually!), it helps one to process and organize his/her thoughts and release them to paper where they can remain. CONTINUE READING PART 2: ufodigest.com/article/therapeutic-ideas-0524
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