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Post by auntym on Jan 16, 2015 19:50:40 GMT -6
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An ex-FBI agent’s tips on how to get people to like youBy E.T. Berg January 11, 2015 When the FBI needed a plan to make their clueless, text-happy young agents better at interviews, they introduced them to one of the bureau’s veteran behavior analysts — the guy who knew all about interrogations. “The young guys would come up to me and say, ‘You old guys make it look so easy. What can we do?’ ” said agent-turned-author Jack Schafer. “We concluded if we studied the way normal people in normal life make friends, we could thin-slice that and have the agents do that in their normal lives.” Modal Trigger “The Like Switch” by Jack Schafer Now Schafer, a Ph.D. who worked with the bureau for seven years as a behavior analyst, shares the tricks of the trades in his new book “The Like Switch,” co-written with management professor Marvin Karlins, Ph.D. Overcoming your “urban scowl” and delivering nonverbal cues, or what Schafer calls the “Big 3” friend signals (eyebrow flash, tilted head and authentic smile), tell people that you are approachable and not a threat — maybe even a friend. “We are too busy focusing on ourselves and not the people we meet,” he writes. “We put our wants and needs before the wants and needs of others. The irony of all this is that other people will be eager to fulfill your wants and needs if they like you.” CONTINUE READING: www.stumbleupon.com/su/2dCa3H/1
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Post by randy on Jan 24, 2015 0:19:17 GMT -6
I have watched people acting friendly with each other and usually it involves walking to some one and hitting them on the shoulder and saying something like Hey you dumb what ever. By that standard I should be the most popular person around.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2015 0:22:22 GMT -6
Thank heavens no one I've ever met has tried socking me in the shoulder. I'm small but I'm mighty.
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Post by randy on Jan 26, 2015 22:32:42 GMT -6
Normally I dont care if everyone likes me just as long as they dont get into my business which is why I am happy living in the forested mtns a mile from my nearest neighbor. People have a habit of trying to tell others how to live and what they cant do which is a fast way to raise my ire. I dont give crap I dont take crap I am not in the crap business as the saying goes.
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Post by auntym on Feb 23, 2015 15:46:35 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2015 23:33:12 GMT -6
Well...I do care about others. I care about what they think and what they feel..and how they're feeling because folks..if we don't care...what in the devil is the point?
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