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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 12, 2016 6:16:26 GMT -6
Disclaimer : I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or hold any formal degree. Due to having kids young, I did not finish up. However, I did take a liking to it, especially abnormal psychology. Here is a brief writeup about one of those disorders considered abnormal. Mods, go ahead and move this if the topic is a stretch They are, however, an unexplained phenomenon... Here are some red flags when dealing with someone with possible "Antisocial Personality Disorder", as they are now classified. No, this doesn't mean shy quet people, this is someone who completely lacks all empathy for their fellow human being, and views them as nothing more than a consumable throw away item. - Extreme charm and charisma, to the point where it's hypnotic. Although completely superficial, they will mirror your hopes, dreams and ideals to develop extreme rapport, that is strictly to reel you into their plot. - Constantly eliciting sympathy - Highly manipulative, and will commonly persuade you by making you think an idea they want you to have was yours. (This is manipulation 101, and VERY powerful.) Luckily only the highly intelligent ones have this trick mastered. - Tend to pick victims that are submissive, and trusting. If you feel one of your friends may be prey, feel free to consult me on strategies to rid them. These people aren't usually the mass murderers and serial killers you hear about on TV, and the movies. They typically will be feeding off victims financially and ESPECIALLY emotionally. They love nothing more than to have someone fall madly in love with them, only to destroy them by cold sholdering, brutally breaking up with them if they have no more to gain, and will surround themselves with anybody who will shower them with admiration. Remember, they sincerely believe they are above everyone in every way, and some genuinely believe they are not human. If you've ever listened to Lil Wayne, he either is a typical psychopath, or is portraying one to sell albums. Back to the tells, - Pathological liers, and will frequently contradict themselves. This depends on intelligence level as well, as smart ones keep note of every lie they have going with each individual. - Projects a tough yet innocent persona. This is very attractive to many women. Think black leather jacket with boyish charm and innocents. - Will not accept responsibility, and will always twist the blame. If there is one thing you remember from this list, this should be it. - They love to drop hints of their true nature. After they feel they have duped their victim, they may say things such as, "The devil always appears as the savior." or, "aliens are said to inhabit chosen ones.". Of course it will be in glib tonality, but they really mean it. - When speaking and writing will use "I" and "Me" 80-90% more than people without this disorder. - Loves to hurt feelings by embarrassing, and humilating people in private and public. - Feels little to no emotion, but revolves around rage when they do become emotional, even that is short lived though. - Body language will always express superiority. If you are psychologically savvy, the main thing to remember is they will not appear congruent. Something will just seem off, and that right there my friends should tell you to RUN not walk away from that individual. In conclusion, even seasoned PhD Psychiatrists will admit to being duped by these cunning sick individuals. Many have IQs surpassing the 120-130s, which is a recipe for disaster. Suspect a loved one may be one? The only treatment so far that has yielded any sort of results is practicing empathy, and although you will not be able to change their grandiose attitude and sense of superiority, it is possible to help them practice empathy, and view others as more than something to exploit, be it artificial and against their nature.
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 12, 2016 7:36:38 GMT -6
What to do should you find yourself involved with one? Well first is to confirm it. NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, has many of the same traits, but can go away should the individual choose. So be sure you are in fact dealing with one. Secondly, you should distance yourself, A LOT. The idea here is to not be an easy target so they will move on to the next. If you didn't do so early on, and find yourself being exploited, extorted, abused etc. contact the authorities immediately. Personally, one of these yahoos found out where I lived after they stole my vehicle. I basically made it as difficult as I could for them to collect their perceived reward. The police are swamped and under staffed/ budgeted in my city, and due to a Russian mob car theft ring, all they can do for a stolen car is put it on the hotlist and hope it turns up. In my twisted story, the lead gangster (not affiliated with the mob, just your run of the mill bad guy) contacted me by phone. First thing I did was let him know he was in control. He informed me that he had my address, and if I contact law enforcement, they will come after my family, and me. (This is all true and happened three months ago btw) Of course, NEVER fall for that trap. Many if not most of these guys have been hemmed up in the system at some point. They don't like it. They are surrounded by their own kind and many become victims themselves. Anyways, I lied and said I wouldn't contact the cops, and would await further instruction. I acted terrified which gave him even more of a power high. This happened on a Wed. he said he would call back Friday. Friday evening he did. He asked if the car was insured, which I confirmed, and asked what my deductible was. I told him, and he said he would return the car for that amount. At this point I had done all my part on reporting and updating the police and insurance on the whole situation. My big concern at this point was getting my wife's spare key, my mail key, and house keys which were all on the ring he got ahold of.
Friday evening rolls around and I walk down the road from my house to the agreed meeting spot. Sure enough my car rolls by, but I knew it wasn't going to be this simple. With extortion, it doesn't just end and go away. If they find a victim, they will leech until they're dry. He calls, directs me here... Calls again, directs me there... Goes on for an hour.
Meanwhile, no police show up as promised as they were either busy with emergencies or just didn't care.
Fifth place he tells me to meet him, low and behold, the guy who stole my car is face to face with me. The car of course is nowhere to be seen. He asks for the money, and here's where I flip the script. I show him $100 bill, and day I want my other keys as a sign of good faith. Tries to pull the old, okay give me the $$and I'll grab it, nah nah nah. Need those and here's $100 for your meth habit buddy. (VERY obviously major tweakers) Well, he runs off, grabs my keys, we make the exchange, and of course he calls and gives me an excuse about how he thought it was a setup (which it was SUPPOSED to be, thanks guys) and took off out of fear.
Well I call "My City's" finest first thing Sat. morn. The lady informs me she's sending a unit to speak with me because something isn't right in the system. Deputy shows up, has me run my story again, and he informs me he pulled my STOLEN REPORTED car over at 7a, and let it go because they dropped my name and said they were borrowing it.
UNREAL
Not only had the original responding officer not taken a report, I had been on the phone with these guys over ten times about this and it never even made it on the hot sheet.
I asked the officer's advice on what to do as they have my address. He said he wouldn't be too concerned with the threats of violence, but to change my locks as they most likely copied my house key, and wouldn't put it past them to burglerize me.
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 12, 2016 8:14:39 GMT -6
Well I had enough at this point, and texted the perp from my office VOIP line. I informed him I was a lawyer representing me and my family, and he needed to return the vehicle or he and the car would be reported as it didn't belong to me, but the company I worked for, and they had found out. I also added the cameras and LoJack would be activated within 24hrs of the car want left in any public place of his choice. I called him, pretending to be frantic, scared for me and my family's well being, and distanced myself from the police. I also informed him I couldn't talk anymore as my company was tracking our conversation. Now, knowing this guy was a meth head, I bet my bottom dollar he was losing his mind with paranoia at this point, which I later confirmed he was. A week goes by, and I had pretty much given up. Insurance calls for two weeks before they pay out. Well the Sunday, about a week and a half after the initial ordeal, a random call comes through. Says his name is bob, and interviews me about what happened. He says he has my car, and will drop it off the next day. Next day I get a text of the location, it's there low and behold, and for the most part in decent shape. Crazy, I know. Fast forward about month down the road. I get a knock on the door around 3p. Open the door not thinking anything of it, and turns out to be car thief. "Where's my FU***NG money" Jes** Chri**... "What money???!!! " " Don't FU** WITH ME, ILL COME AFTE... " Act like I see my neighbor, of course nobody was home at the time, get him to look away... SLAM FOOT HITS FORCE HIM OUT LOCK " I'm getting my shotgun and calling 911" I yell trying my best not to quiver in my tone. Duck down, call 911, answer dispatches interrogation... He appears to be gone, cop shows up, describe him, and he says he's going to check the area. 20-30min pass, I gather the guts to go on the porch and hear him taunting me. Whistling, yelling, whatever, call 911 again to report he's back. This time they sent a chopper less than 200-300ft above my neighborhood within five minutes. Not sure if they got him or what. But my point here is, flight is always your best option. Always involve the authorities immediately as they can do more than just you can, and use your wits. I ran into a guy that was contacting for a friend that knew the perp. Turned out the scare tactic with the rigged car had him SO scared he thoughts holograms and live satellite-based drones were constantly after him. Now this was a tweaker, but point is, most criminals aren't very smart. If they were, they would be rich because they are good at it. Use every bit of leverage you can. In my case, it was my intelligence, and getting him to underestimate me. Never get scared to contact the police, and just use your gut. If something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't. Really sucks knowing this guy knows where I live, but that whole time when he had my car, he thought I was afraid to call the cops. When he showed at my door, I made it VERY clear I wasn't, and will call immediately. I'm HOPING that scared him to another target. It's a shame I have to carry a 9mm on me now, as I just don't feel safe. Word is, this is a bad dude with nothing to lose. Someone with nothing to lose, and no empathy is a scary thing, and they're out there. Stick close to shore as it's not the sharks you have to worry about, it's the bottom feeders that get you should you venture to the wrong spot. I trusted the wrong guy and can say, it's an ugly scary spot down there. The psychopath is typical in the deep end. I'm conclusion be safe guys, odds are, this or anything like it won't happen to you, but if it does, I've given my advice and feel free to reach out for support.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 9:10:29 GMT -6
If he ever comes back to your house just introduce him to your little friend.....he wont come back again....I promise....
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 12, 2016 9:26:58 GMT -6
Lol I could take that sooo many ways. Thing is, if ur talking guns, if I'm pulling a gun on someone I'm 100% ready to take lethal shots. And in my state, you better be able to prove without a doubt he was a lethal threat, or there is clear evidence they had intent to harm. IE Affirmative Defense law in my state clearly says you have to prove you used appropriate force for the situation. Meaning dude kicks my door down at 3a, has no weapon, I shoot and kill him, I am looking at prison time. I know you're kidding half and all, however - "Self Defense The law gives everyone the right to defend themselves with a reasonable response. Self-defense is an affirmative defense to a charged violent crime. This means if someone is charged with murder, or assault, they can use self-defense as a legal excuse for the conduct if they can prove it in a court of law. Source - See more at: criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/may-i-shoot-an-intruder.html#sthash.tzl1fsCT.dpuf So nice knowing my local Leo's refused to charge the guy with extortion, which he was clearly attempting, yet recently they locked a man up for shooting a man attempting to steal his car right out of his driveway. Since when are criminals more protected than the victims? Since they figured out criminals have no resources to drain, and tax paying victims have money for lawyers, bail, phone time when locked up, and money to pay fines in order to keep their licenses. They cut the cold blooded killer some slack, and only hit him with six months, plus probation = fees, a hefty fine and private lawyer retainers, which I would bet throw kick backs to someone on the "other side". My friend who is an ex-prosecutor, husband to a local judge, and defense attorney admitted it's a rigged nasty game that nobody can beat. It's a matter of how bad you're railroaded. Guilty until proven innocent, and you should avoid any charge at all costs. Having first hand experience in it, for a very minor charge that stemmed from a false allegation literally ruined me in every way possible for a solid three years. Mind you this was with resources, a private lawyer, and no evidence against me at all. My choice was take a deal for a minor charge that would ruin me for three years, which wasn't disclosed, or risk a trial, and if convicted face a major charge that would ruin me for a decade and guarantee me a year in prison. Luckily, there are people who will fight for you, but they can only do so much without risking their careers. I was advised that if this upstanding extortion plotting scum kicks my door down, make sure he's dead so there isn't another version of events, and be sure he had a weapon, even if that means planting one. Insane to say the least, and I wish I didn't have to stress about this very real possibility. I'll take a week of abductions, including the memories with eyeball extraction to be able to ensure that this would just go away. Scared, and angry is an under statement, and victims of freak occurrences like mine shouldn't have to go through this. The Greys are welcome compared to this threat. At least they generally don't pose a lethal threat usually, and lack of compassion is a byproduct of viewing is like lab rats as opposed to just plain evil. Greys, if you're reading this, get rid of this monster for good and you have my permission to run me through the program for two weeks. Amazing how I saw an amazing display the other night and couldn't care less as I'm dealing with a much nastier species that is not human yet appears as one. I just have this awful nagging gut feeling that this isn't over, and he will wait until I think it is to strike when my guard is down. Let me tell you, looking over your shoulder daily, being armed and ready, and listening for the slightest irregular sound is not fun. I truly feel for those living in real war zones as this small taste is bitter and terrifying. My loving dogs provide much needed relief though, and still bring a smile to my face every day. It's so ironic too because everything else in my life couldn't be better other than this potential threat. God help me, I really need some closure to this...
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Post by skywalker on Apr 12, 2016 18:33:38 GMT -6
We don't have those problems where I live.
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 13, 2016 2:59:47 GMT -6
We don't have those problems where I live. I wouldn't be so sure. You may have a higher chance of hitting the lottery than dealing with a similar problem, but I never in a million years imagined something like this could happen where I live either. I moved from an area where I was hundreds of times more likely to encounter such a scenario, only to discover this slow moving city that is surrounded by rural outskirts housed dangerous freaks as well. 1% is roughly the population ratio of these guys, and remember, they would like nothing more than to have you believe they aren't stocking your heard. Odds are slim but I wouldn't discount the possibility that one has they're sights set on a place where everyone feels safe and secure enough to go about business, not even noticing them blending in with whatever your typical demographic of people are. Don't be afraid, but don't for a second underestimate their ability to blend like a chameleon until they find a mark. Btw, I wasn't even a chosen mark. A series of freak occurrences got me in this mess. Hindsight is 20/20, I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, duped and now fear one has a vendetta against me since they were out witted, and lost a big hand. All I can do is hope to god that I'm more trouble than it's worth to them, and continue to have eyes in the back of my head until I'm 100% certain the threat is gone. One thing I failed to mention is even though during the face to face encounters, I showed no fear. I was pissing myself on the inside, but could clearly see the frustration I caused him by not giving him the satisfaction of fearing his tactics that obviously work on all of his other victims. This is either going to bore him to seek out someone who will openly fear him, or motivate him to up the stakes in order to elicit the response he thirsts for out of me. Let's hope it's option one.
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 13, 2016 3:07:36 GMT -6
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Post by casper on Apr 21, 2016 20:12:13 GMT -6
If the psycho dude comes back sic the little doggies on him!
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Post by patsbox7 on Apr 22, 2016 2:25:30 GMT -6
If the psycho dude comes back sic the little doggies on him! Oh man, in their minds they would take him out too. Dachshunds are pitbulls trapped in wiener dog bodies. Grew up with big dogs my whole life, and never thought I would be a little dog guy. My wife got our first one and they're the best dogs I've ever had. Highly recommended breed!
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