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Post by paulette on Dec 8, 2018 16:54:57 GMT -6
Two nights ago, I called my husband to come get a plate of dinner. He didn't answer and he didn't answer the second call either. I found him sitting in his recliner chair, sweaty and pale, barely breathing. I attempted to get a radial (wrist) or throat (carotid) pulse but couldn't. His eyes weren't tracking me and when I slapped him (painful stimuli) he didn't even flinch. So I called 911. They couldn't easily get pulses either - the one EMT thought his heart was racing and his pulse was about 180.
They hauled him out and away. I followed (not closely) in my car. When I arrived, I had thrown on some pants. My shirt was my PJ shirt and I had two different shoes on. I stayed until 11:30 and drove home with the windshield icing up and slightly sliding on black ice. I slept deeply.
The next day was tests and such. He seemed fine. I got home before it got dark and managed to snag a GF pizza which I ate for supper and for breakfast today. I was there when he was discharged. No one could say what happened to him. He said suddenly he fell into blackness and left his body. He was starting to merge with the universe but came back. There was no pain and he wouldn't have minded going.
I would have minded. I came home yesterday and sat in my living room chair and slept for hours. I was exhausted in a weird way. I slept through the night (obviously needed the extra sleep). All is good enough. That's a Merry Xmas for me!
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Post by swamprat on Dec 8, 2018 17:04:25 GMT -6
Wow! A very trying experience that had a good ending! Prayers for the two of you!
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Post by skywalker on Dec 8, 2018 20:04:16 GMT -6
Something had to cause it. Maybe they don't know yet but there has to be something. Maybe more tests are needed. Or maybe it will stay a mystery. It's good he recovered from whatever it was though. Sorry you had to deal with that drama, Paulette. Hopefully the rest of your Christmas will be merry.
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Post by paulette on Dec 9, 2018 19:49:15 GMT -6
Thanks for your responses. I felt better but in some ways not reassured. It could happen again. At any time.
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Post by Princess Leia on Jan 11, 2019 22:54:10 GMT -6
Thanks for your responses. I felt better but in some ways not reassured. It could happen again. At any time. I’m keeping you in my thoughts, Paulette... =,(
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Post by jcurio on Jan 11, 2019 23:20:03 GMT -6
He said suddenly he fell into blackness and left his body. He was starting to merge with the universe but came back. There was no pain and he wouldn't have minded going. I would have minded. Read more: theedgeofreality.proboards.com/thread/8200/husband-started-die-nights-ago#ixzz5cMqNwbHu_____________________ You can’t keep someone from dying. You’ve definitely helped him live a better life in these past years. Why are you so sure he “wouldn’t have minded going??” Praying for You! And hello to our new member~
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Post by randy on Jan 13, 2019 10:32:47 GMT -6
Do not assume all is well and over it is not. I speak from experience that doctors do not know everything Get another opinion some thing caused it. My wife died of medication side effects that went undiagnosed until too late. metformin and invokana are bad for causing death by side effects. GEt on the internet and study every single med he is taking for side effects. Doctors are hazardous to your health
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Post by paulette on Jan 16, 2019 11:05:54 GMT -6
JCurio. He has said on the two occasions that he almosted died (a big bad heart attack 4 years ago) that he wouldn't have minded. In the first case, he said he heard me calling him back as he was finding his way out of the hospitial (his organs were failing). In this last incident, he was again amazed at how easy it was.
Randy I hear you. He is taking various BP lowering drugs and a statin. (He seems to have no daily side effects).
To all. He was Dx as having vascular dementia a couple of weeks ago. We talk to our family doctor tomorrow. I think he will lose driving status. We are both entering unknown territory.
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Post by jojustjo on Jan 16, 2019 11:26:13 GMT -6
My husband had a mini stroke some months before he died..and it sounds very similar. They don't usually leave much of a hint they've happened. They told me then that if that's what it was..it could be followed by a more serious stroke. That didn't happen..instead his pancreas gave up. It is never an easy thing to watch a loved one decline...I pray for strength for you.
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Post by Princess Leia on Jan 16, 2019 16:17:18 GMT -6
Vascular dementia? That’s frightening. Equally frightening is “unknown territory”.
You have my sympathy... but I’m not so good at offering words of support. Just know that I do support you... hugs
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Post by paulette on Jan 20, 2019 12:20:53 GMT -6
Everyone - thank you for letting me say/type here what is going on. It's like, part of me really understands, the other just keeps hoping that he will hit a plateau, that we can have a little more semi-normal time together until I get things sorted out. So writing it allows another part of my part to process what is. Now (of course?) I see all kinds of clues that do not allow me the false comfort of ignoring that we are on the banana peel and heading downhill. He no longer remembers where clean dishes (that are in the drainer)go. We've lived together for 13 years and both created a system - where the cutting boards go. Where this or that goes. Now he puts them - just about anywhere. I must search for a cutting board.
He cannot remember to look in the refrigerator for something to eat. He does have frozen leftover meals in the freezer and he still remembers them because he used to take one to work every day. So that still works.
I wonder how long we actually have been doing this dance and I just refused to notice. I'm taking a course on line, and it outlines some of the expected changes. Like his voice. He has a normal timbre speaking voice. But now...now he has a high creepy old man voice. Soft and high. This apparently is on the dementia menu. Sigh. I asked him why he speaks like he does. He affected a deep voice and shrugged. And when back to how he speaks now. A different language.
Grief? Yes I am in grief. As much as I can afford to me at this stage. It's like he's being replaced by an alien bit by bit. One that is puzzled about where dishes go, where his keys are, etc.
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Post by jcurio on Jan 20, 2019 17:56:01 GMT -6
I hear you..... ❤️❤️❤️
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