Post by Steve on Apr 10, 2011 0:25:36 GMT -6
Barbara Lamb, MS, MFT, CHt
The Big Picture of Extraterrestrial Contact Experiences
& How Regression Therapy Can Help
by Barbara Lamb, MS, MFT, CHt
barbara_lamb@verizon.net
Abstract: In her 31 years of psychotherapy and regression work, the author has come to realize that the source of some clients’ trauma is the experiences they have had with extraterrestrial beings. She prefers to use the neutral term Experiencers to describe this group, as events can run from terrifying to transformational. Many patterns are very clear in ET contact; the beings fit recurring type descriptions; Experiencers go through a myriad of common experiences, including involvement with a hybridization program. Regression Therapy can be very effective in helping this population process their memories and experiences.
We have gathered an enormous amount of information about the subject. It is not disparate information; it is confirmatory, and substantive. It is rather like putting the pieces of a puzzle together. We do not have all the pieces, but we can see the picture clearly now. Each piece adds to our understanding. Each piece gives us insight into the motivations and goals of the picture’s creators. There are, of course, many important pieces to fill in. If researchers accept abductee accounts, then we must ask why people are being trained in crowd control. We do not know what the role of non-abductees will be in the future. We do not know how the power of neural engagement will be used on humans once they integrate into the society. Neural engagement means they can control us and we cannot control them. We still need to learn a lot more about this most perplexing and unnerving program. Obviously, we do not know everything. Most importantly, we still do not know why this entire program of integration into the society is happening. This lack of knowledge is actually extremely important because if this were psychological, we would know why this is happening; if abductees were psychologically generating all this material,
many, if not most, would generate the ultimate reason for the project as well. But they don't.
In popular culture, many outer space-themed movies have involved a flying saucer coming to earth, an alien coming out of a flying saucer and saying, “My name is Xabdork. I come from Venus. I have come because you have been doing
unacceptable things. You must shape up.” In these movies, we know exactly who they are, where they are from, and why they are here. But this phenomenon does not follow popular culture, as skeptics would want us to believe. It has its own internal dynamics apart from the abductees and the researchers. As John Mack said, the phenomenon is what it is. That means it is not what we want it to be.
Budd Hopkins and I have been doing this work for a cumulative total of over 45 years. We have interviewed, listened to, read letters from, and worked with thousands of abductees and we still do not know why the aliens have initiated this program.
In a sense this lack of knowledge helps to validate what we have learned. Once we know the aliens’ original motivations for starting the program, we will have gone far towards answering the ultimate question about abductions. In the meantime, we have greatly progressed towards answering most of the important questions about this phenomenon and those answers are both surprising and disturbing. They are not answers I had ever expected. They are not answers I wanted to hear. The pieces of the puzzle form a picture I do not wish to gaze upon.
Regression therapy is the most helpful and effective way I know for getting to the source of a continuing problem, such as fear, trauma, confusion, or feeling victimized by an unknown source. After 15 years of conducting psychotherapy and seven conducting Regression Therapy, I discovered that the source of some people’s distress or trauma is experiences they have had with extraterrestrial beings.
These beings cause various responses in the people they contact—everything from wonder, awe, and enlightenment to extreme anxiety, fears and phobias, anger, resentment, and (rarely) the inability to function normally. Regression therapy and integration work can help people with any of these responses make sense of bizarre experiences and function better in their lives, even though the experiences may continue to happen to them.
Many ancient sources indicate interaction between extraterrestrial beings (who seem to come from the heavens or space) and humans for thousands of years. In recent times, contacts and abductions have been reported since the early 1960s. According to polls taken during the 1980s and 1990s an estimated five to eight million Americans have had these experiences, and it is a world-wide phenomenon as well.
Since 1991, when I first worked with a traumatized extraterrestrial Experiencer client, I have regressed more than 500 people to various experiences of extraterrestrial contact — perhaps 1500 regressions. I am currently working with 15 abductees, and I lead a monthly support group for Experiencers as well.
I prefer to call people who have had encounters with extraterrestrial beings “Experiencers,” rather than “contactees” or "Abductees".
Many of these individuals have some encounters they consider negative (and therefore might be thought of as “abductees”), and some they consider positive (and therefore might be thought of as “contactees”). Since the interpretations put upon their experiences by these individuals vary so much, it seems best to refer to them using the neutral form “Experiencers.”
Conducting Therapy With Experiencers
The field of therapeutic work with Experiencers is a recent development. One of the first ET contact cases went on record in 1964 when psychiatrist Benjamin Simon hypnotically regressed Betty and Barney Hill back to their disturbing 1961 abduction by unusual beings in New England. Dr. Simon was not familiar with the emerging phenomenon of human abduction by extraterrestrials, and he concluded the Hills must be suffering a “shared delusion.” Later evidence, perspective, and other people’s experiences validated the reality of the Hills’ encounter. Nonetheless, most mental health practitioners have failed to come to grips with the abduction phenomenon, and in many cases do not believe the phenomenon is real. Thus,
Experiencer clients are often erroneously diagnosed, medicated, and treated. This leaves them feeling misunderstood and worse than before they sought professional help. Experiencers are also subject to ridicule from family members, friends and associates. As a result, they learn not to talk about extraterrestrial experiences and the sometimes severe anxieties which result, and therefore receive no help dealing with these experiences.
The Academy of Clinical Close Encounter Therapists (ACCET) is a good source of professional psychotherapists and regression therapists to which Experiencers who desire to receive professional help can be referred. ACCET is an international organization of professionals who appreciate the challenges faced by individuals who experience extraterrestrial encounters, and who are trained in regression therapy. Contact ACCET at Barbara_lamb@verizon.net.
Experiencers may suffer pronounced anxiety, especially in certain situations which remind them of extraterrestrial encounters, but most are not inherently medically or psychiatrically disturbed. This is amazing, considering the intensity of the trauma they have experienced. Most are normal people to whom very unusual things have happened, but they may still need therapeutic help to deal with these events.
Now that the subject of alien abductions is being aired in the media, more Experiencers are coming forward. They want validation and understanding from persons who know something about the phenomenon. Experiencers often attend UFO meetings and conferences to see if there is evidence of crafts and beings coming from space. They may share their stories with researchers in the UFO field long before daring to tell a therapist. If Experiencers find a knowledgeable therapist, they are relieved to be taken seriously and to have their experiences validated.
Working with Experiencers
I believe trained regression therapists have the necessary skills for working with Experiencers if therapists are open to the possible reality of unusual encounters. Regression can help the Experiencer uncover buried memories of strange encounters, even though the aliens often have specifically influenced these individuals “not to remember” anything. Fortunately, everything is recorded in the subconscious mind and the memories can be retrieved through regression. This enables expression and release of the associated feelings and eventual integration into the person’s conscious life. A therapist’s initial contact with an Experiencer is important, whether the contact is in person, by letter or by telephone. Experiencers are often afraid to disclose the bizarre and unexplained things that have happened to them, so it is crucial the regression clinician be open-minded and take what the client says seriously, even though the therapist does not yet know if the individual is a true Experiencer. It can help to ask about the client’s general life and functioning, and a brief description of anything the client thinks might be related to the unusual experiences, including dreams that seem to be “more than dreams,” sensing or seeing unusual beings in their room, flashbacks to glimpses of unusual creatures, UFO sightings, “missing time,” unusual and unexplained markings on the body, or anything else that seems relevant. It is also important to tell the client from the start that if it is discovered through regression that they are Experiencers of
extraterrestrial contact, their lives and their notions of reality may be changed forever.
In the first session, before the therapist begins a regression, it is important to determine if: any other crisis or major life issue is going on in the client’s life, whether the client has a history of being abused, and whether he has psychiatric symptoms or serious depression or anxiety. If any of these conditions are found, they should be taken care of therapeutically first before exploring the possibility of extraterrestrial contact.
As the client describes unusual experiences and offers clues that something anomalous has happened, the therapist does well to notice where the client is most intensely emotional. Look for “irrational” anxieties, flashbacks, and vivid dreams. Explore the client’s fear of uncovering possible abduction material. Clients may fear they are going “insane” because of the bizarre experiences, and it is necessary to reassure them this is not so. Clients may need help in setting up support systems which help the client feel stable and accepted as he or she goes through the regression work. They are helped by being acknowledged for their courage in coming for help, and for being willing to explore what may have happened to them.
During the first sessions it is better the therapist not indicate whether he believes the client has experienced a true abduction. The client should draw his or her own conclusions about this, but should not do so until after at least one or two regression sessions. It is also helpful to prepare the client for what the process of hypnosis is like: a state of deep relaxation in which we can access memories buried in the subconscious. During the regression the client will hear the therapist’s voice, follow the guidance, and answer the therapist’s questions. He will answer out loud describing the details of what he is recalling in the episode being revisited. At moments he may be aware of the position of his body. He will mostly be aware of reliving the experience he has regressed to, moment by moment, though at
times he might be briefly aware of the “here and now” and his current thought process. It is important the therapist reassure the client the therapist will be with him in the experience, every moment, will assist him in handling what is happening, and will help the client come out of the experience any time he needs to, or when the episode is completed. The therapist can reassure the client that if he does not want to fully experience what is being remembered (such as a painful medical procedure) that the therapist is prepared to assist the client in removing attention from his body in order to figuratively view what is happening from the side or from above.
It can be helpful to learn the sequence of events comprising the experience, even without fully reliving painful physical sensations. The client benefits from being reminded before the regression starts, and here and there during the regression, that he will return from the experience he is reliving, and will continue with his life and his everyday functioning. The therapist should help the client choose the focus or subject for the particular regression. The focus could be a fragment of memory, such as a few seconds of an unusual experience. It could be whatever happened just prior to a period of missing time. The focus could be looking at the source of flashbacks of a disturbing experience. Or the focus could be whatever happened that caused the client to suddenly have unaccountable scars or other markings on his body. Or, it could be what happened after seeing unusual beings by the side of the bed at night and being unable to move or call out for help. Or, what happened after seeing a bright light above the client’s car while driving, being followed by this light, having the car motor mysteriously stop and beings approach the car. Or the client may want to look at the source of a disturbing, recurring dream. The focus helps the client’s subconscious mind locate the incident being explored, and make it available to be relived in detail.
Sometimes the focus is other than a specific incident. It may involve going back to the source of intense feelings (often fear or discomfort) which the client has in certain everyday situations, which remind him of something anomalous and disturbing he does not quite remember. For example, the client may greatly fear being in a hospital, or shopping mall, or airport with light-colored shiny floors, and discover during regression the fear stems from being in a spacecraft (which had bright shiny floors) during an abduction. Sometimes the regression focus is more open-ended, such as asking the client’s subconscious mind to take him back to whatever is most important to remember at this particular time. It is also helpful to assess the client’s primary “mode” of accessing information and memories, whether visual, auditory, kinesthetic, scent awareness or intuitive knowing, in order to ask the kinds of questions during regression that will bring about the clearest memories and information.
The therapist can explore any beliefs the client may have in a “higher source” to call upon for help, if necessary, during the reliving of traumatic memories. If the client has a sense of spiritual resources, the therapist can reassure him that some “higher guide” will accompany him and make sure he is returned from the experience. If the client has no sense of spiritual resources, the therapist can reassure him the therapist will accompany him in every moment of the experience. The client does not have to relive an entire abduction experience during one session if the experience seems overwhelming or too distressing for him. The session can be ended any time he wishes or feels it necessary. Each client needs all possible reassurance he will be “safe” in the process of recovering his memories. He may also need practice getting into the altered state sufficiently to relive the experience he is choosing to explore, and it may take the client some time to trust the therapist to help open the way for the experience to be relived.
Experiencers may consciously recall elements of their abductions before being regressed. Some remember only fragments. Others think they remember the entire episode only to discover through regression there was much more to the experience than they had thought. Some remember nothing about an abduction experience for years until “triggered,” perhaps by seeing a picture of an alien or a UFO, or hearing of someone else’s encounter, or having a vivid dream.
It seems the extraterrestrials affect the Experiencer with a form of amnesia or forgetfulness. This is powerful and may be reinforced by the Experiencer’s own internal protective mechanism of denial. Unconsciously, many Experiencers feel a strange kind of bonding with the aliens they encounter, as in the Patty Hearst abduction case, and feel disloyal to them by remembering. (In the infamous Hearst kidnapping of 1974, the victim appeared to become sympathetic to the cause of her captors, the Symbionese Liberation Army. This bonding phenomenon is called “Stockholm Syndrome” after a similar Swedish bank hostage incident in 1973.) Such clients need to be reassured they have a right to know what happened to them, and no harm will come to them or to the aliens by remembering and sharing the experience with someone they trust. They will benefit by being reminded they have survived the experience, no matter how bizarre or disturbing it may have been.
Whatever comes to the client’s awareness during the regression should be explored as thoroughly as possible, including going over some details again and again and deepening the brain wave state if necessary. Since the client is liable to fill in the gaps between moments with his own confabulated ideas, it can be helpful to relive the episode more than once to be sure to retrieve it accurately. As in conducting any regression, the therapist should not influence the material with leading suggestions, assumptions, and planting of ideas.
Some traumatic details may not appear during the first sessions due to the client protecting himself from unwanted distress. Clients experiencing fear during regression should not be forced to remember details they are not ready to face. The therapist should move slowly, following the client’s lead. The therapist can suggest the client move backward or forward in time; this is possible in the altered state of consciousness, which is a very fluid state of being.
Before ending the regression, the therapist can direct the client to “move ahead to the conclusion of this experience.” This gives the client closure of the material in that session and brings him back to where he was at the beginning. The incident can be revisited later, and the client will feel some completion for the time being. The frequency of abductions varies greatly from one Experiencer to another. In my research it appears most Experiencers have been abducted more than once, often many times, starting in childhood, infancy or even life in their mothers’ wombs. Intervals between abductions may be weeks, months, or years; yet some people report several abductions in one night.
Some Experiencers at first recall only frightening events. These stand out dramatically, attract the psyche’s attention, and need therapeutic work. Later, Experiencers often discover they have been interacting with a variety of aliens and that some occasions have been educational, enjoyable, even enlightening. I encourage my Experiencer clients to continue with their regressions so they can discover the probable positive aspects of their extraterrestrial contacts as well as the negative elements.
Indicators of Abduction Experiences
Experiencer clients often present indicators of extraterrestrial contact, and more therapists should be aware of these special clues. The Experiencer often has on-going irrational anxiety, disorientation, confusion, and frequent panic attacks. At worst, the individual may discontinue work or school or other activities. He or she may avoid getting needed treatment due to a fear of doctors’ offices, hospitals, and medical instruments and procedures. Some have panic attacks in settings where the lighting is indirect from an unknown source. Many Experiencers have sexual and relationship problems and difficulty trusting others, especially authority figures. Some have compulsive or addictive behaviors; yet they may also have psychic abilities and experiences. They may fear animal eyes, owl eyes, spiders, snakes, and praying mantis insects, which unconsciously remind them of extraterrestrial beings encountered. Many Experiencers fear the dark, fear being left alone, going to bed, falling asleep, fear bedroom closets, fear being “watched,” driving alone at night, and being followed by bright lights. They may have unusual sleeping habits, such as sleeping fully clothed and with shoes by the side of the bed, so that they can make a quick “get away” if visited by unwanted creatures. They may sleep next to the wall for a sense of protection, and position themselves away from windows so they will not be seen from outside. They may lock the doors and windows of their homes, turn on a monitoring system and check the system again and again before retiring for the night. They may wake up at a particular time at night, every night, or may do everything possible to stay awake until that particular time has passed and they inexplicably feel “safe.” Experiencers may describe being “slammed” awake, or recall the sensation of being dropped to the mattress from above. They may wake up in strange positions on the bed or on top of the bedcovers, or somewhere else in the house or even several miles away from home; they may wake up with grass or dirt on their feet, and not remember having been outside during the night. They may find their hair completely wet upon awakening and have no awareness of how that happened. They may have their sleeping clothes on backward or inside out, even though they remember having put the sleeping clothes on properly before going to bed. They may even find themselves wearing clothing not their own. There are also body clues of extraterrestrial contact. The Experiencer might find small scoop-shaped scars, triangular burn marks, a bead of pus in the navel, straight thin cuts, bruises in the shape of a grouping of fingertips, pin-prick marks organized in distinct patterns. There may be a small lump near one ear, or in the forehead, or the base of the head above the spine. There may be vibration in his forehead, his ears may ring or buzz, or he may feel pressure in his ears. He may have had frequent nosebleeds since childhood, and may wake to find drops of blood on his pillow. He may have chronic sinusitis and other nasal problems, as well as chronic headaches, and strange sensations in one ear, or behind one eye, or in the sinus area. Additional clues are back or neck problems, soreness in the genitals, or stiffness anywhere in the body. He may have a strong sensitivity to certain lights and sounds, and electronic equipment may turn off or malfunction when he is nearby.
Some Experiencer women may say they became pregnant without having had sexual activity, and then two or three months later discovered the fetus had mysteriously disappeared even though there was no abortion or miscarriage. Or they may say one of a pair of twins mysteriously vanished from the womb, with the cord cut and sutured perfectly. Experiencers may remember being paralyzed, unable to call out, being levitated and floated out though a closed window or a solid wall, and then transported up on a beam of light and into a spaceship where various procedures happen.
Types of Extraterrestrial Beings
According to reports from thousands of people worldwide, there are many types of aliens — tall and short, with hair or bald, uncaring or compassionate, and in all cases they are very different than life forms we are familiar with. It is always a shock to encounter any of the types, because they are unknown and strange. It is disconcerting that they suddenly appear “out of nowhere.” We do not know what to expect of them. We feel vulnerable, at their mercy and helpless. The most common type of beings reported are the “little grays,” described as three to four feet tall with grayish skin, big black almond-shaped eyes, tiny noses, small slits for mouths, no outside ear flaps, very large heads with pointed chins, no hair, and thin, delicate-looking bodies. They often move stiffly, like robots. They are described as going about their tasks diligently and efficiently, with a matter-of-fact attitude and no apparent regard for the Experiencer's reactions or discomfort. No wonder Experiencers feel mystified and often repulsed when approached by these beings.
Similar in general appearance are the “little whites.” They have big round eyes with some white areas in the eyes and seem to Experiencers to be sweeter, gentler, and less threatening than the grays. The little grays and the little whites are the ones who pick up the abductee and take him or her to other beings who perform various procedures. Sometimes they do not remove the Experiencer, and instead perform medical procedures in the Experiencer’s bedroom. Other gray beings of various heights are reported, some with large, black, almond-shaped eyes, some with so-called “beveled” eyes. Some stare into the Experiencer’s eyes from a distance of only an inch or two, seeming to draw out all the person’s thoughts and memories — a most frightening and unnerving experience for the Experiencer.
There are also bronze-colored and whitish aliens that are five-feet eight or nine inches tall; some have large, faceted eyes. Others have huge pointed ears and big feet. Some are very tall pure white aliens with wispy hair and skin drawn tightly over a skull - like face. Some are reported to look like "Sasquatch," i.e., large, ape-like beings with hairy, shaggy skin. Very disconcerting and frightening are some large, muscular reptilian types of beings with snake-like golden eyes with vertical pupils and uneven, mottled and bumpy skin, often described as alligator-like or snake-like. Some of these fearsome beings wear armored plates covering their chests, padding on their shoulders and thighs, which make them appear even bigger and more powerful. Some wear regal clothes with insignia, crests, or rows of medals. They tend to have the size and stature of a tall, athletic human male. They approach people aggressively and have sexual intercourse with them, without any negotiating or gaining consent. Another type of being is the tall, thin “insectoid,” with huge bug-like eyes wrapped around the sides of the head. As disconcerting as these “praying mantis” beings appear, they often turn out to be unconditionally loving and kind. Once an Experiencer gets past the unusual appearance, he may report a great fondness for these beings. Shorter, stockier, bug-like aliens with big bulging eyes do not seem to radiate that kind of lovingness, and are often shunned by those who encounter them. Some aliens appear quite human-like, including the “hybrid” type, which seems to be a combination of human and extraterrestrial. They often look human at a distance, but appear alien upon closer contact. The eyes seem more human than alien, but the expression and demeanor are non-responsive. Allegedly, some hybrids can pass for human and sometimes intermingle in human society.
Many aliens wear robes with large hoods, or spacesuits, or formfitting suits of varying kinds. Although no external genitalia can be seen, abductees sense the beings are “male” or “female.” Some seem more attuned to the needs and feelings of humans than others; one of my clients was told that, “aliens who have had recent human incarnations manifest greater understanding of human beings.” There are also athletic, handsome, human - looking alien beings, often blond with intense blue eyes. Referred to as “Nordics,” these often make a positive impression on Experiencers although they conduct their procedures methodically and often without explanation. Some beings seem to be other - dimensional and ethereal, and greatly inspire and thrill Experiencers, on whom they bestow transformational experiences. Some “ethereal” beings are so unconditionally loving that Experiencers feel deep grief and loss upon returning from these contacts.
During abductions, many of the aliens described above work together onboard a rounded craft. Certain beings take the Experiencer to the craft; others perform medical and reproductive procedures on the Experiencer who is lying on an examining table. Still others do deep scanning through the Experiencer’s eyes, and another type comforts the Experiencers by touching their foreheads or shoulder with one hand.
A “leader” type observes the procedures from the background. Some aliens do complicated healings on abducted humans and are reported to have healed conditions such as cancer, long term back pain, kidney problems and a congenital heart defect. With one of my clients they did emotional healing by relieving her deep grief over the death of her father. After physical examinations and medical or reproductive procedures are completed, Experiencers are sometimes taken to another room and shown “holographic” scenes of earth catastrophes such as floods, earthquakes, or nuclear or ecological destruction. Sometimes they are shown pleasant, positive scenes. Sometimes the aliens holographically “stage” emotionally stirring events, such as the Experiencer’s child being struck by a car, or a cherished lover or departed loved one suddenly appearing. During these staged events the aliens study the Experiencers intently, watching their reactions as if they are trying to learn about human emotions, or perhaps they hope to derive energy from the intensity of human feeling.
Lifelong Experiences
People seem to begin their extraterrestrial contacts early in life, sometimes even before birth. One male client was treated by an extraterrestrial for a congenital heart defect while still in his mother’s womb. The being placed his hands on the outside of the womb and sent energy into the embryo inside. He said to the embryo, “You will not be able to live with this condition, so I am placing an invisible electro-magnetic strip over the hole in your heart.” The treatment was repeated by the extraterrestrial every year or so, during abductions, until the man was 48 years old and received surgery by human doctors for the officially-diagnosed congenital heart defect.
Children respond to contact in various ways, ranging from terror and dread of sleeping alone to thoroughly enjoying their “special friends.” Children are taken from their beds at night or from play areas during the day, medically examined on the spaceship, apparently to be sure they are healthy, and sometimes given a tour of the craft. Some children are introduced to “hybrid” children and asked to play and teach them how human children play.
Some children find themselves in a classroom setting on the spaceship with other abducted children, being taught such things as “mind ball” (moving things with only their minds) and other psychic skills. These learning games are taught and monitored by a variety of extraterrestrial beings. Some children recognize one another from their lives on earth, and develop strong bonds with each other and with the beings. In many instances the children enjoy these experiences, and yet are mostly unaware of them and their own paranormal abilities after being returned to their homes.
Hybridization of Humans and ETs
When Experiencer children enter adolescence, an additional, traumatic, experience may begin. There seems to be an on-going interbreeding program being carried out by some species of extraterrestrials. Eggs are removed from an adolescent girl, either through her navel or vagina and cervix, and are apparently mixed with alien reproductive substances and a hybrid embryo is formed. A month or so later, the girl is abducted again and implanted with the hybrid embryo. Some girls realize they are pregnant and some have the pregnancy confirmed by doctors. A few weeks later they are abducted yet again; the embryos are removed and placed in containers of fluid. The girls suddenly realize they are no longer pregnant, and yet they know they have not had an abortion or miscarriage. This is distressingly baffling to the girls, who in most cases have not been sexually active, and it is mystifying to their doctors. Months later these same girls are again taken aboard the spaceship and asked to hold their “babies,” who do not look entirely human. The Extraterrestrials seem to know that because these babies are partly human, they need to be held, loved by and bonded to their human mothers. These babies are frail and pale, with large, penetrating eyes, strangely - shaped heads and straw-like or wispy hair. The girls are urged to hold and bond with these unusual babies during the visits while being closely observed by the attending extraterrestrials. Some girls are horrified and mystified by this, while others respond with surprise and yet are able to hold and feel love for the strange-looking baby. During subsequent years these girls continue to have brief visits with their hybrid children onboard the spaceship.
Some mothers wish they could raise their hybrid children on earth, but they are told the children would not survive here. Some mothers want nothing to do with their hybrid children and are repulsed that their reproductive material was taken and used to create these strange children. Some Experiencers have been told by their abductors that these hybrid children are highly prized, especially since many do not survive to adulthood and are needed to help the alien race survive.
A woman might be part of this hybridization program many times, for a span of decades, usually with little conscious awareness except that she is pregnant and then, mysteriously, not. Recall can be achieved during regressions, with resulting feelings of being victimized and used. My compassion goes out to the women who experience these events. Human males are subject to reproduction/hybridization procedures as well. Some are traumatized and may develop sexual difficulties and aversions with their romantic partners at home. Beginning in adolescence and continuing for several decades they may be abducted and have sperm mechanically removed. They describe this as painful, horrifying and repulsive. In some cases they have sexual intercourse forced upon them by extraterrestrial beings, which causes trauma and feelings of helplessness. With both human males and females, these reproductive actions usually take place onboard the spacecraft, with the occasional copulation taking place in their own homes. The aliens have explained the hybridization program to Experiencers in various ways. One race has lost its ability to reproduce offspring and needs to combine with human genetic material to survive. Another race has become physically weakened by many centuries of interbreeding with only their own kind, and wishes to incorporate the more robust human stock. Another has become too intellectual and rational and wishes to add the component of human emotion. Still another race wishes to create offspring who could live with them in their location and also live with humans on earth. Other races say they seek to create offspring who can travel back and forth between their society and ours, serving as “ambassadors.”
Physical vs. “Out-of-Body” Abductions
Examples of procedures which are unmistakably physical and performed on the physical bodies of abductees include: medical examinations on a cold, hard table; taking and testing of skin and body fluids; inserting, extracting, and replacing tiny implants; procedures with the brain; taking samples of tissues from inside the body; reproductive procedures (including sexual intercourse with the beings); and being suspended and submerged in large tanks of unknown liquid. Experiencers are also asked to nurture hybrid offspring and are tested for their emotional reactions to various situations. By contrast, “out-of-body” experiences involve being taken in spirit/consciousness/mind only. The body remains behind where the experience began. Experiencers report being levitated from their beds and looking down at their bodies; their bodies remain lying on the bed. They may be taken to some sort of “place of learning,” which may be astral (non-physical) as well. Perhaps for their own sense of security, Experiencers may see these settings as a library, classroom, laboratory, temple, or other place they associate with learning. The place may be a non-physical place experienced in a non-physical state of being. Extraterrestrial guides, teachers, or mentors help in the learning of information and skills, including;
physical healing, psychic development, technological skills, ecological concerns, the piloting of spaceships, the administering of health care to masses of people after earth disasters, and other subjects. During the years of his abductions, an Experiencer may have both physical and “out-of-body” abductions, and both positive and negative encounters.
Whether the abduction experience is physical or “out-of-body,” it usually begins with the Experiencer being rendered paralyzed and amnesic after the first few moments of seeing an unusual light and beings appearing nearby. My clients have told me this is necessary to prevent their flailing out in fright or anger, which could injure them and their abductors, and to enable the particles of their bodies to separate enough to be moved through a solid wall or closed window. The beings might also increase the vibrational frequency of the Experiencers’ bodies, which requires a lack of movement. Because the beginnings of abduction experiences are startling, intrusive and forced upon them, Experiencers usually react negatively and fearfully, even if the experience turns out to be a positive one.
Variations of Roles in Abduction Experiences
Occasionally clients come to believe during regression that they were abducted by extraterrestrials during a previous lifetime. Or, they may feel they themselves were extraterrestrial during previous lifetimes, living their lives on another planet, exploring various planets for possible colonization, or being sent to earth for certain purposes. Some clients claim they previously were the same type of extraterrestrial being that is currently abducting them, and that they are serving as “windows” for the beings to learn more about human beings and life on earth.
Some Experiencers feel honored and privileged to be part of an important cosmic program. Some may even channel meaningful information from these beings, which they are eager to share with other people. In material my clients have channeled
from extraterrestrial beings, we have been told all conscious, intelligent beings in the universe are from the same source, are able to incarnate on various planets and dimensions, and that each intelligent species goes to the same spirit plane between incarnations. Some Experiencers discover during regressions that they actually collaborate with the extraterrestrials during abductions. They may help convince other humans to go aboard spaceships, help with medical procedures on other abducted humans, learn healing techniques from the beings, help run the spacecraft and even co-pilot the ships. Some Experiencers discover they are delegates to large council meetings comprised of beings from many different planets, where they discuss problems amongst species and especially problems on earth. Others travel long distances in a spaceship while suspended in containers of special liquid to keep them safe and help them adjust to the speed and changing atmosphere.
Transformational Aspects
Some Experiencers do not interpret what is happening to them as invasive or traumatic. They believe their abduction experiences, even painful medical procedures, are for a worthwhile purpose and basically positive. They learn to like and in some cases love the beings with whom they have had years of contact. They accept the reality that they have extraterrestrial spouses and children. These people deliberately look for the deeper and more positive meaning of their experiences. It can be argued that this is the only way Experiencers can tolerate what has happened to them and will continue to happen to them. It is similar to “Stockholm Syndrome” described earlier, in which human captives bond with human captors in abductions here on earth. However, people who look for positive aspects in UFO abductions usually find them justifiably. Although many people fear aliens are intending to take over the earth for their own use, some Experiencers come to believe the alien/human interaction is ultimately benevolent and that some species of extraterrestrials are genuinely concerned about the ways in which we are destroying our precious earth. They urgently want us to change our ways and save our planet before it is too late. Many Experiencers find a spiritual dimension. They may accept the “aliens” as intermediate between themselves and God, or the primal source of creation or cosmic consciousness.
They liken the aliens to angels, spirit guides, light beings, or enlightened beings. They feel the abduction is a return to a true cosmic home, beyond space and time, to an incredibly beautiful realm. They feel joyous, with a changed sense of their own place awe of the universe and the natural world of earth. They eventually see our notions of space and time as non-accurate, and sense themselves to be in multiple times and places at the same moment. They may weep with sadness on leaving that realm to return to humdrum lives on earth, and they sometimes remain depressed for a time at the loss of these glorious experiences. Many long to “go home to their true family.” When Experiencers realize their consciousness is separate from their bodies they become aware of the cycles of birth and death on earth and other planets as well, and they relate more easily to the countless beings beyond space and time. They become less ego-attached to their current personalities, and may identify with the extraterrestrials during their abductions. Some feel “blended with” the beings at times.
Moving Beyond Fear
It is important for Experiencers to move beyond fear, because fear seems to attract the more negative aliens and experiences. If Experiencers act like scared animals when abducted, they will experience being treated like animals. They can easily become so saturated with fear they do not notice many elements of the experience. It helps if the Experiencer can feel the fear without holding on to it, and then notice details of the encounter and the extraterrestrials. Even when the Experiencer is told by the beings “not to remember” the encounter, he can insist on being aware and remembering. I encourage my Experiencer clients to tell the beings they have a right to know what happens to them. Experiencers can ask for a meaningful relationship with the aliens, and if they do they are more likely to be treated with respect and as a peer. Extraterrestrials communicate telepathically with humans, and some Experiencers try to “test” the beings who come to abduct them by telepathically asking “Who are you?” and “Are you from the Light?” If the beings refuse to answer or emit negative vibrations, the Experiencer can refuse to go with them. If the beings say they are “from the Light” and emit positive vibrations, the Experiencer might choose to let the experience happen, knowing they will likely have positive or at least meaningful experiences. Exercising control in this manner is a way of lessening fear of an experience over which they have no control. Experiencers can refuse to be taken by several means. At the first moments the beings appear, the Experiencer can vehemently project “NO! I refuse!” either aloud or mentally. Experiencers can immediately visualize intense white light from a high source surrounding and protecting them. They can call on their favorite saint or spiritual protector to ward off the experience, or they can immediately move some part of the body to break the paralysis about to set in. These methods are effective if used immediately and with strong intention and emotion. Experiencers can also ask for information, such as why the aliens are here, what they are doing, and why they are doing certain procedures on them. I encourage Experiencers to ask these questions during both the regression and in any subsequent abduction, and usually meaningful information is gathered. When Experiencers realize they can do this, it considerably relieves fear of the mysterious and bizarre episodes, and gives the Experiencer a sense of actively participating in the encounter instead of being completely at the mercy of the beings. When Experiencers ask why they, in particular, have been selected to be visited, they are often shown that during a spiritual state before coming into this lifetime, they made agreements with the Extraterrestrials to cooperate with them during this life. Or, they are shown they were once members of that group of beings during a previous lifetime, are currently one of their representatives here on earth, and have agreed to be studied by the beings to further understanding of the human race and life on earth. Alternatively, they are told they are members of a particular family whose genetics have been studied by the beings for generations, and they are needed to continue this line of study.
Conscious, Awake Experiences
As some Experiencers move through and beyond fear, they sometimes ask the aliens to appear when they are fully awake and in the light of day, for a conscious face-to-face contact during which they can avoid feeling victimized and can have a better chance of building mutual rapport. This does not always work out as planned; some clients who ask for such meetings become upset and react negatively when their wish is granted. But others manage to control themselves when the beings appear. They suppress any self-protective, violent reaction and proceed to have conscious, positive experiences of relating to the beings, visiting the spaceship, and being taught interesting information.
The Processes of Therapy
In conducting therapy with Experiencers, there are special considerations. These clients will probably not remember all details that emerge during regression, and they should not be forced to deal with material still repressed. They will remember it eventually, when they are ready. It can be helpful to give the client “homework” assignments: drawing and/or writing down what they remember from each regression; writing in a journal anything unusual that happens during daily life, such as flashbacks or “triggered” memories—as well as their reactions to the regression. As with other therapy clients, any homework that engages the client in the ongoing process of therapy is helpful, and especially so with Experiencer clients.
During regression, to make sense of the bizarre material as it emerges, Experiencers may spontaneously “fill in the gaps” between recollected segments and make assumptions about what is happening in the gaps. This is called confabulation, and it can give an erroneous sense of the experience. Experiencers need permission not to remember everything at once. Sooner or later it will all make sense, especially if the incident is relived a few times. With especially traumatized clients it can help to allow the reliving of traumatic material without physically feeling it, as if only observing it, for the first uncovering or two. This can be accomplished by having clients figuratively “leave their bodies” and watch the incident from somewhere else in the room, without experiencing it physically. It is helpful to allow clients to examine only one traumatic incident per regression, and to bring the client safely out of the encounter and back to where it began. Clients who are handling the encounter reasonably well might wish to relive the entire experience with all its details during one regression. The therapist can check by repeatedly asking the clients how he is doing as the regression progresses. When many Experiencers are newly reliving encounters in regression, they will have ongoing apprehension about being abducted again. They may feel helpless because they do not know when or where it will happen. In this event, the therapist might suggest the client visualize himself remaining calm when the strange beings approach; that the client remind himself he need not feel undue fear because he is always returned from the abductions; that he turn his attention to the beings and ask whatever he wants to know; that he look for interesting elements in the encounter, or elements which are benign or positive; and that he reinforce his own inner strength, which cannot be robbed by the beings.
Experiencers need time to assimilate the experiences recalled during regressions, and therefore we wait a few weeks or more before doing further regressions. Between regressions, regular counseling sessions or phone contacts with the therapist can help. The therapist available for encouragement and support,
might be the only person the client feels is understanding and supportive, and this means a great deal.
The process of recollecting experiences with Extraterrestrials may evoke a variety of emotions and reactions in the client. Initial denial these bizarre encounters are actually taking place is one such reaction. Anger that the beings are doing things to them without their conscious permission is another. They may block from their awareness certain procedures done to them. They may suffer great fear of the beings and the strange (and sometimes painful) procedures. They may feel deeply depressed they cannot prevent the encounters, and cannot stop unwanted procedures inflicted on them. They may feel grief as their previous understanding of reality is challenged and changed forever. They may feel isolated, alone in the experiences, as if they are hugely different from everyone else. However, with sufficient therapy and regressions many clients gradually come to accept the encounters. Some become increasingly fascinated with the phenomenon of human-extraterrestrial contact, and may become serious researchers of the subject. They may share encounter experiences with others who are also having such experiences, and highly value participating in an Experiencer support group. They may come to realize they do have some choice about continuing the encounters. In the aftermath of realization, I have observed a long process of changing from one reaction to another, and as in any grief process individuals experience these stages in unique ways and in unique order. It is vital the therapist understand these processes to best help Experiencers proceed through them.
Support Groups for Experiencers
Support groups are extremely beneficial to Experiencers. Support groups allow Experiencers to share accounts of extraterrestrial experiences, realize they are not alone in having these bizarre happenings, feel understood, accepted, and “normalized.” It is best not to begin group participation until after the client has gone through a few regressions, and when they and the therapist have substantial indication of the kinds of things that have been occurring. This helps avoid being influenced by other peoples’ testimonies, which could contaminate their own
memories. Support groups can provide other resources, such as suggested reading, conferences, and methods of coping with difficult situations. Even a small support group can help, and therapists who work with such clients should try to provide a support group for them. Although it is helpful to have therapists present during support group meetings, the therapist does not need to conduct official group therapy. The therapist can guide the group in an orderly way to assure each participant has his say on the aspects of most concern to him or her. Some support groups elect to do sky watches together during late evenings or overnight camping trips in hope of seeing a UFO. Witnessing unusual craft that do not seem to be made by humans gives Experiencers a sense of validation of their experiences with
extraterrestrials.
Considerations for Therapists
Not all therapists are willing to work with people who think they have been abducted by extraterrestrials, since many therapists do not believe in the reality of such beings and experiences. Even therapists somewhat open to this reality nevertheless may not be comfortable enough to work with Experiencers. Long held notions of reality could be shaken. The material might be difficult to handle, personally and emotionally, and they might not know how to proceed in therapy with this kind of material. They might not be trained in regression therapy. Therapists who work with abductees can be strongly affected emotionally by what their clients recall and by the obvious challenges to their own preconceived notions of reality. Also, with abductees, we cannot change the future; they will continue to be abducted. The source of the trauma will continue, out of the therapist’s and the client’s control. This is distressing to therapists, who want their clients to “get better.” It helps if therapists attend conferences and talk about these concerns with researchers and other therapists who work with Experiencers, form networks with them, and read widely about the phenomenon. It can also help to talk with people who have had these experiences. When feeling more prepared to deal with Experiencers, therapists can look for clues a client might be having extraterrestrial encounters, and proceed with their helpful therapeutic skills. I encourage all regression therapists to be open to finding the clues indicating that a client might be an abductee, and if they are found, to venture forth with an open mind with their best therapeutic skills.
It seems an increasing number of people are becoming aware they have had abduction experiences, and more therapists able to work with these individuals are needed. If mass sightings of UFOs and extraterrestrials ever occur, it is possible therapists will significantly contribute to public understanding of what is going on.
Barbara Lamb MS, MFT, CHt is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Hypnotherapist and Regression Therapist in Claremont, California. She specializes in Regression Therapy with people who experience encounters with extraterrestrial beings. Trained by the Association for Past Life Research and Therapies (APRT) she began working with ET experiencers in 1991, and has conducted regressions with more than 500 of them, totaling at least 1500 regressions.
She has taught workshops for Regression Therapists through various agencies such as APRT, the Professional Institute for Regression Therapy (PIRT) and others. She is currently President of The Academy of Clinical Close Encounter Therapists (ACCET). Ms. Lamb has presented numerous lectures on the ET Encounter subject across the U.S., Canada, England and Belgium, and has been interviewed on numerous television and radio shows.
Her forthcoming book, Alien Experiences, co-authored with Nadine LaChance, will be available in Spring, 2007. Her existing book, Crop Circles Revealed, co-authored with Judith K. Moore is available from her through email at
barbara_lamb@verizon.net.